Grief is a universal experience that touches the lives of everyone at some point. Coping with loss can be an overwhelming journey, and finding effective ways to navigate through these times is crucial. Grief journals are more than just notebooks filled with blank pages; they are places of comfort for those who are grieving. These journals provide a safe space to express emotions, thoughts, and memories, allowing individuals to navigate the complexities of grief at their own pace.

By putting pen to paper, individuals can externalize their internal turmoil, fostering a sense of catharsis and emotional release. Some of the benefits of journaling include externalizing emotions, gaining insights into inner thoughts, and facilitating the healing process. Journaling creates a safe space for expression and allows individuals to explore their feelings. Because grief is not linear, they can revisit these pages throughout their grief journey as their feelings evolve.

Reflections

Hope Through Healing’s grief journal, Reflections, was curated with empathy and understanding. It provides information and correlating prompts that align with the individual’s grief to support them as they navigate this challenging path.
The structured format of Reflections guides individuals through various aspects of their grief, including from the first month through the first anniversary plus a special informational issue on navigating the holidays.

Distinguishing Reflections: Our Unique Grief Journal Approach

• Reflections is customizable. Print your own custom message, logo, contact information on a clear label and place it on the inside cover!
• It includes 14 journal prompts that correlate to the information pages. The information pages provide helpful information on processing grief and validating the feelings without it being too overwhelming.
• It offers a variety of resources including websites, books, and podcasts, for those who need something a little different.
• There is a special information page for grieving during the holidays. This information can be referred to long after the first year after a loss. It takes time to heal, and grief is something we integrate into who we are.
• We also have bulk pricing available. This is great for organizations who want to use this in a grief or counseling group.

Reflections is intended to be used over the course of a year. However, everyone’s grieving timeline is different, and the pace should be adjusted to their needs.

Be the Missing Link Between our Journal and Your Families

Industries or organizations who may benefit from our grief journal include churches , financial planners, and funeral homes.

Churches: Finding Comfort in Community
Churches play an important role in providing support to their congregations during times of grief. Incorporating Hope Through Healing’s Reflections into church programs can be a powerful way to offer practical assistance to those in mourning. Churches can utilize Reflections as part of grief support groups, where offered. Structured prompts can facilitate group discussions, allowing individuals to share their experiences and support one another. By integrating the grief journal into church programs, communities can foster a culture of empathy, understanding, and healing.

Funeral Homes: Beyond the Service
Funeral homes are often the first point of contact for individuals experiencing loss. By offering Hope Through Healing’s Reflections as part of their services, funeral homes can differentiate themselves while providing a meaningful resource to support grieving families. Reflections can serve as a valuable tool for funeral directors during grief counseling sessions, if offered. It can be included in memorial packages or provided as a complementary offering, demonstrating the funeral home’s commitment to holistic care.

Check out this article to learn more about Grief Literacy for Financial Advisors.

Financial Planners: Aiding in More Than Finances
Financial planners help their clients plan for life and reach their goals. When loss invariably affects their clients, having the right tools can help build trust and connection. Offering the Hope Through Healing grief journal enables financial planners to offer comfort and help their clients navigate this difficult transition.

Conclusion

Hope Through Healing’s grief journal, Reflections, in its structured format and thoughtful prompts provide an outlet for self-reflection, allowing individuals to process their emotions and find hope in the healing process. Beyond its benefits for individuals, Reflections offers valuable support for churches, financial planners, and funeral homes, bridging the gap between emotional and practical aspects of grief. As we continue to explore innovative approaches to grief support, Hope Through Healing’s Reflections stands out as a powerful tool, offering hope, healing, and comfort through journaling.

Who are we?

2023 Hope Through Healing Publications© has been around for over 20 years. It was created by a woman who was in the healthcare industry herself and saw the need for bereavement mailings or grief mailings. What started off as a grief mailing series for hospices, has grown into so much more. Hope Through Healing© has gained the trust of many organizations including hospices, hospitals, VA clinics, churches, and even veterinary clinics in all 50 states. Some of those include:

“The Hope Through Healing sympathy card and Grief Series that follows gives us the opportunity

to express words from the heart to our bereaved families; that they are unique individual,

and that our care has not ended with the passing of their loved on.“
-St. Luke’s Hospital

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What is the Grief Mail Series

The Grief Mail Series is a six-part series of informational grief mailings that provides comfort, peace, and hope during the difficult process of healing. 

It is intended to be mailed out over the course of the first year after the death of a loved one. The suggested intervals are 30 days, 3 Months, 6, 9, 11, and 13 Months. These time frames are designed to align with the mourning stage the grieving families find themselves in. Each issue comes in packs of 25, 50, or 100.

“A spouse reached out to me recently saying each issue had just the words of encouragement and help she needed in her grief journey at that time.“
-Pointe Coupee Hospice

“Again and again I hear ‘that pamphlet arrived just as I was feeling sad or depressed.”
-Michigan Palliative and Hospice Care

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Benefits of the Grief Mail Series

• Our Grief Mail Series is simple and easy-to-use. It helps standardize bereavement care programs across larger organizations, departments, or multiple branch offices.
• Our Grief Mail Series is also available in a bundled format to allow for smaller organizations to be able to provide the bereavement care their families need without the need to purchase 25 of any one issue. Many start-up hospices will start with this bundle and as they grow, they will order larger packs. The Grief Mail Series Bundle includes:

• The Grief Mail Series Bundle is also available in our Spanish Series for organizations who have Spanish speaking families they serve, but who may not need 25 of any 1 issue. Provide bereavement or grief support to your families in a language they understand, see Products listed below for which languages are available. Would you the Grief Mail Series in a language not provided? Submit a contact request for feedback.

• Our Grief Mail Series is a cost-effective way to provide the bereavement care and grief support your families need. We offer bulk rate discounts:

• The Grief Mail Series assists and is designed to help meet the bereavement support requirements set by Medicare and Medicaid: The U.S. Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services (CMS) requires hospices to offer bereavement care for a minimum of 13 months following a patient’s death, but many providers extend those services to their entire communities regardless of whether the deceased was a patient. (https://hospicenews.com/2022/08/11/federal-bill-calls-for-bereavement-care-consensus-standards/)
• We can provide a tracking sheet for you to stay on top of your scheduled Grief Mail Series dates and to keep track of everything you have previously mailed for audit purposes. We can email this sheet to you, or you can find it on our website. It is completely complimentary.
• Each Grief Mail Series Issue is customizable. We have intentionally left the middle panel blank for you to add your own custom message, logo, and/or contact information. We highly recommend and encourage our customers to include a phone number or email for their families to contact them directly for more support. We can also provide sample messages to inspire your custom message.
  • We can imprint your customization for an additional fee, and when you receive your Grief Mail Series it will be ready to be sent to your families.
  •  We can also provide you with all the tools for you to customize as you go. (Templates, sample messages, and how to instructional video.)

Our Products

Grief Mail Series Our Grief Mail Series is our most used product by hospices throughout the U.S. The issues that are part of this series are:

• 30-day Issue: This issue has the newly grieving in mind.
• 3 Month Issue: This issue addresses common reactions in grief.
• 6 Month Issue: This issue addresses the complicated emotions of grief.
• 9 Month Issue: This issue reflects on loneliness and offers hope and tips for self-care.
• 11 Month Issue: This issue offers fresh perspectives for facing the first-year anniversary of the death.
• 13 Month Issue: This issue makes a great closing piece for your bereavement program. 

7 Languages: Our Grief Mail Series is available in seven languages. Support your grieving families in a language they understand.

• English: Our full Grief Mail Series as listed above.
• Spanish: Our full Grief Mail Series (plus Holiday) is available in Spanish. 
• Mandarin: Our full Grief Mail Series (plus Holiday) is available in Mandarin. 
• Korean: Our full Grief Mail Series (plus Holiday) is available in Korean. 
• Vietnamese: Our full Grief Mail Series (plus Holiday) is available in Vietnamese. 
• Russian: Our full Grief Mail Series (plus Holiday) is available in Russian.
• Polish: Our full Grief Mail Series (plus Holiday) is available in Polish. 

Special Stand-Alone Issues

• Holiday: This issue addresses how to navigate the holidays without your loved one.
• Isolation: This issue is appropriate for anyone grieving in isolation.
• Suicide: We have two grief support issues for Suicide. These Suicide grief support issues address the complexities of grief experienced by suicide survivors.
• Child Loss: This issue is to help guide parents, caregivers, and/or

Baby Loss

• 1 week
• 30 Days
• 3 Month
• 6 Month Issue
• 9 Month Issue
• Holiday

Sympathy Cards

• Grief Sympathy Card
• Faith Sympathy Card

Sympathy Cards in Spanish

• Grief Sympathy Card
• Faith Sympathy Card

Specialty Cards

• Friend
• Miracles
• Greatness
• Integrity
• Joy
• Optimism
• Compassion
• Love
• *Peace
• Sincerity
• *Solace
• *Prayer
• *Consolation
• *Faith
• Encouragement
• Gratitude
• Holiday
• Hope
• Healing
• Memories
• Strength
• Remembering

Pet Loss Sympathy Cards: These sympathy cards are to show support to someone who lost their pet dog or cat.

• Pet Loss Dog 2
• Pet Loss Dog 1
• Pet Loss Cat

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Supporting your staff can seem difficult when you don’t know where or how to start. There are many ways organizations can provide support to their staff, and many reasons to do so as well. Providing support may be crucial in preventing burnout, frustration and/or anxiety. Those on the frontline are working long, stressful hours, and often, with no support to them. According to Mental Health America:

As a member of the Bereavement Professionals community through the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO), we came across a post of someone asking what some ways are that healthcare organizations support their staff. Here is one response from a bereavement professional, sharing some things their organization does to advocate for their staff’s mental health and well-being.

1. “[Interdisciplinary Group] Conferencing begins with a bereavement segment in which our Bereavement Coordinator facilitates team members not only providing information on the death and offering insights about the anticipated grief experience, risk level and interest in formal services of the bereaved, but the team also takes the time to process and reflect on their own experiences as providers/clinicians around those deaths. There is much natural, mutual support shared amongst colleagues and gentle, simple reflection from the Bereavement Coordinator who always closes the time with a quote. The coordinator does a lovely job of holding space, and the quotes are focused on positive inspiration on life/meaning generally (not solely about grief). They often bring quotes from famous figures who have died in a timely way that also frequently acknowledges how we are connected to the people and events in our community/country/world. Our teams consistently voice appreciation for this time as one that is critical to their wellbeing and culture of our program as one that is not death or grief avoidant/denying, nor sees its staff as productive vehicles only, but humans too.
2. Code Lavender: We used to offer debriefings when requested and we utilized the Cleveland Clinic model herein. However, we found that it was difficult to arrange these within hours/days with the schedules of our bereavement staff. So now we do a mix we have trained our managers to do debriefings AND we have our bereavement team rotate hosting a monthly drop in Code Lavender that is for staff only. No leadership attends. We feel this creates safety for staff to be able to share things both professional and personal, if they wish, and receive mutual support. The bereavement staff present often prepare some content in advance and have some guidelines in place to promote safety and engagement as this is done virtually so the maximum number of people can attend without having to be limited to room size/# of attendees per our agency policy, and windshield time/schedule challenges as much. We have had great success in this model and staff consistently attend when they need on and off. It is well utilized and receives lots of positive feedback. We feel it speaks a lot to what our department values as this is a department wide monthly offering so any hospice or palliative care staff member can attend.
3. Wellness Huddles Our program has many workgroups (back-office, west hospice, east hospice, north hospice, leadership, inpatient pall, clinic pall, community pall, etc.) and each workgroup has its own wellness huddle, including leadership, on a weekly, optional basis. Volunteer facilitators are primarily social workers, and they blend mindfulness and other wellness practices and topics into brief 30 min offerings. Team members who attend share as they wish and leave with both tools as well as a sense of feeling heard, seen, and seeing and hearing others on their team. It has built camaraderie and reduced feelings of isolation within the smaller workgroups.
4. Mini Community Meetings: During the pandemic we recognized that our operationally focused quarterly all-staff meetings were lacking a sense of community especially with so many fewer opportunities to have ‘water cooler conversations’. So, we created a monthly ‘Ted Talk’-like inspirational, community meeting. In this meeting staff come up with a topic related to work culture, community and wellbeing and bring it to everyone. The topic is vetted by me, and then shared in advance with all. Staff attend if they wish. We have generally more than half if not three fourths of all staff attend each time. Topics are meant to inspire and connect staff together. Many topics shared in advance encourage staff to submit pictures related to the topic in advance if they wish to. For instance, one topic was about movement and its connection to wellbeing.  Staff and leaders sent pictures in advance of the ways they find wellbeing through movement. Other topics have been around depletion and fatigue, listening, spiritual trauma, mindfulness, remembering veterans, holiday grief, grounding, and more. (Several of our bereavement staff were the first to speak and this was a great way this got rolling!)
5. Weekly “All the Good” A by staff, for staff end of the week email newsletter to re-cap the feedback from families, leaders, and peers. It’s a public sharing of thank you’s. It also includes an extensive humor section with memes and cartoons submitted by staff that bring levity and humor to the end of the week. (Our department rarely sends any mass emails, so this is not considered clutter and is enjoyed as a staple.)
6. Meeting Closure Standard We end almost all meetings across the department with the practice of open mic gratitude. Some teams use the “three good things” format.
7. Pet Therapy We recently added planned office visits from our pet therapy volunteers so they could regularly visit staff! Because why not? We can’t believe we didn’t think of this sooner!  We know it’s great for patients and families, and so too is that true of our staff who experience a great deal vicariously in their work. It is a wonderful stress reliever and gift.

In addition to Joelle’s ideas, here are some other ways to support healthcare staff. Some of these may be great for smaller organizations as they are more intimate.

• Occasional opportunities to play -Perhaps on a Monday to get the week started, a Wednesday to provide encouragement for the rest of the week, or a Friday to end the week on a good note. There are plenty of “office-friendly” games that are great for building teamwork and trust.
• Making things- Making things might be more challenging but making paper balls and having a mini “basket paper ball” challenge could bring some fun and relaxation to the staff’s day. If someone knows any origami, that could be another fun option to making things, quick and easy.
• Art- With art, a quick game of charades or blind drawing could be options. There is no need to take a long time, just a 5-10 quick distraction could do the trick in providing support.
• Decorating cookies-Decorating cookies is very popular especially during the holiday season. This could be a great way to connect with team members and perhaps even alleviate some stress.
• Soup exchange- A soup exchange may be just what someone in the office needs. Soup is sometimes thought of as comfort food and could bring joy to someone’s day. An alternative to a soup exchange could be a potluck, that way everyone can look forward to lunch time.
• In-house wellness support ‘challenges’- Some wellness support challenges can include healthy team lunches, a minute of mindful breathing, or even a drinking more water challenge. These small changes can make a big impact.
• Individual casual check-ins daily around the office- Checking in randomly with co-workers can really impact their day. You never know what others around you are going through, and just checking-in can be a reminder to them that someone cares.
• Mindful connections -Making a mindful connection can include actively paying attention to what the other person is saying finding a common ground, even. Following up with these conversations can help build connection and community within your organization.

These ideas were shared by Amy Kitsembel, Bereavement Coordinator, Aspirus Comfort Care and Hospice
Examples were added by Alejandra at Hope Through Healing.

Now that you have some ideas on how to start, choose the ones that work best for your team. Even the ones that seem smaller or insignificant can have a huge impact.

There are many more options not listed here to support healthcare staff. If your program has other ways they provide support, please let us know in the comments or in the contact us page. We want to continue to share these resources with others who may not be aware of all the different ways they are able to support their staff.

By Lisa Huycke

Ocean Vuong has written a beautiful collection of poetry called “Time Is a Mother.” The poems are his tribute to his mother, who died of breast cancer, and are an attempt to understand his life in the wake of her death. I recently listened to Vuong being interviewed on the NPR Fresh Air podcast and wanted to share this powerful work with you. You can listen to and find the transcript here.

Ocean Vuong describes grief as “…perhaps the last and final translation of love,” then adds, “And I think, you know, this is the last act of loving someone. And you realize that it will never end. You get to do this—to translate this last act of love—for the rest of your life.”

This concept, of grief being the last act of loving someone, really resonates with me. Our love for someone does not end with their death. There are so many aspects of everyday life that remind us of our loved one. We see them in everything we do and are reminded of their absence. The sharp edges of our grief may smooth out over time, but the void remains.

Mothers are our first connection, our role model in all things, and set the tone for how we see the world. This may serve as a blessing in our lives or be the measure of how we wish to be different. Either end of the spectrum is very powerful and all-encompassing.

I was gardening in my front yard years ago and an older gentleman walked by. He commented on the zinnias growing in my garden and told me that they reminded him of his mother. I could tell that this was a sweet reminder that encompassed much more than the flowers. My own son was just a baby at the time, and I remember thinking I hoped he would remember me as fondly when he saw something so simple and ordinary as a zinnia.

As Mother’s Day approaches, many of us will ache with the absence of our mothers. We will remember her love and care, or may feel conflicted by the complexity of this relationship. We may not have the words to express the feelings that surround our mothers and this day we set aside to honor them. I hope this interview with Ocean Vuong and his latest work, “Time Is a Mother,” helps to express the collective grief we feel when we lose our mothers.

By Alejandra G.

Losing a child is something no parent ever wishes to go through.

At Hope Through Healing, our mission is to provide comforting materials to guide and validate the people in your care as they navigate grief. We hope to offer an extension of the high-quality care you provide every day by putting together this list of books to help grieving parents cope with the loss of a child:

• Shattered: Surviving the Loss of A Child by Gary Roe
• Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child Revised Edition by Ellen Mitchell, Rita Volpe, Ariella Long, Phyllis Levine, Madeline Perri Kasden, Barbara Goldstein, Barbara Eisenberg, Lorenza Colletti, Audrey Cohen, Carol Barkin
• Life to Afterlife by Elizabeth Boisson
• When the Bough Breaks: Forever after the Death of a Son or Daughter by Judith Bernstein.
• Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Child Dies by Alan D. Wolfelt
• Touching Heaven: Real Stories of Children, Life, and Eternity by Leanne Hadley
  • This book offers a faith-based, or a religious perspective.
• Blue Nights by Joan Didion 
  • Specific to the loss of a daughter
• Letters to My Son – Turning Loss into Legacy by Mitch Camody
  • A book specific to the loss of a son, for a grieving father:
• You Are the Mother of All Mothers: A Message of Hope for the Grieving Heart by Angela Miller
  • A book specific to a grieving mother:

These books were generously recommended to us by bereavement professionals who are part of the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO.) They have been read and used in their programs to help grieving parents.

If you have other recommendations you’d like to share with us, please contact us!

By Pet Peace of Mind

January 2022

Pets play an important role when their human is facing a serious illness. Seriously ill patients should not experience anxiety related to their pets’ well-being and Pet Peace of Mind aims to eliminate their anxiety. 

Pet Peace of Mind’s purpose is to enrich the quality of life for seriously ill patients and the pets they love by keeping people and pets together through life’s transitions. By respecting the relationship between people and their pets at the deepest level, we actively advocate for the pet’s role as an important member of the caregiving team. In Pet Peace of Mind’s world, a pet is never “just a pet.”

We are driven to preserve the bond of love and we help hospice, home health organizations, and hospitals understand the importance of that bond in the lives of their patients. Pet Peace of Mind is the only national program providing a care model for the pets of seriously ill patients, including helping orphaned pets find a loving new home when necessary. Our program trains healthcare organizations how to support each patient’s pet care needs in practical ways by using specially trained local volunteers to help patients with their pet care needs.

Pet Peace of Mind was founded in 2009 as a solution for a problem that hospice and palliative care organizations faced.  Pet Peace of Mind recognizes and actively supports the unique bond between patients and their pets by allowing patients to complete their end-of-life journey without worrying about their pet’s current or future needs. 

We have over two hundred partners in 43 states and serve 4,000 pets a year.  We partner with hospices, home healthcare agencies, and hospitals.  Our partners work with their animal welfare communities to recruit volunteers who have experience working with pets.

This story from a long-time program partner shows Pet Peace of Mind’s mission in action.  

Nellie is a 9-year-old Chihuahua mix who was missing several teeth.  Nellie’s original owner was still alive but had grown too sick to care for her.  She went to live with the new pet mom, and the new pet mom brought Nellie to visit her previous owner before he passed away.

Nellie ran up to the couch and tried to sit on his lap and lick him, but he was too weak to hold his legs up.  Nellie’s new mom put a chair next to his wheelchair and put Nellie on her lap so he could pet her. He kept saying she was his “Nellie girl” and pet her as much as he could. He was very weak and not able to stay awake the whole visit, but he and his son were both very thankful that she brought Nellie for one last visit.

Nellie’s new mom was suffering from the isolation effects of COVID-19 and explained that Nellie helped her cope with the loneliness she was feeling. She said Nellie gave her a purpose outside of her own worries and provided unlimited snuggles during the most uncertain of times.  She even sits on her lap during Zoom meetings.  She told us “Last year took so much away from the both of us, but it also brought us together. We became the sunshine for each other during a storm of grief. “  

If you’d like to learn more about Pet Peace of Mind, visit  https://www.petpeaceofmind.org/

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By Lisa Huycke

December 2021

Last night, we gathered at Hansen Desert Hills Mortuary and Memorial Park to celebrate the life of my Mother-in-Law, Barbara.  The Hansen family and staff offers this opportunity to all the families they serve throughout the year to honor loved ones who have passed.

Both of my in-laws passed last January and— like so many families around the world— we were not able to have a memorial service for them.  We missed the rituals that help celebrate and honor the lives of our loved ones.  We missed gathering with family and friends who also loved them.  We especially missed hearing the stories and laugher that surely would have been shared.  We wanted our kids to hear stories of how their Grandparent’s friends knew them. 

The sanctuary was beautifully decorated, with a Christmas tree as the focal point. A harpist played in the background and the program featured solos of “Joy to the World” and “Silent Night”.  The speakers acknowledged the challenges and heartache of facing the holidays without our loved ones.

Each family was called forward to place an ornament on the tree, bearing their loved one’s name.  It was very moving to watch each family come forward to find the perfect place on the tree for their ornament.  They were young and old, whole families and individuals.  It really brought home the collective experience of those grieving, especially during the holidays. 

The ritual of this experience filled a void that we, perhaps, didn’t even know we had.  The realities of the pandemic and our inability to gather as a family took an emotional toll.  This service gave us an opportunity to honor Barbara and really brought home how much it meant for us to remember her.

As caregivers in the time of Covid, we recognize that you have stepped up in incredible ways.  Not only have you continued to provide care, but you have also been innovative in how you provide comfort and hope to those in need during these unprecedented times.  What creative alternatives have you found brought comfort during the pandemic?  What rituals have helped you and your families cope with the loss of a loved one during the holidays?  We would love to hear your ideas and share them with our community. 

We continue to be inspired by your innovation and commitment to serve.  Thank you for the important work you do. Happy holidays from the Hope Through Healing Team.  We wish you peace in 2022!

Written By Joan

October 2021

About 18 years ago, I kept commenting “Thanksgiving is such a wonderful holiday,” and “we should thank so many people in our lives.” I said it several times until a friend told me, “But…you never do it.”  That evening, I wrote my first Thanksgiving letter – to the person who challenged me!

Since that first letter, I have written many. They have gone to a priest, a rabbi, a minister, a new business owner, my family, several friends, people I know, people I hardly know, and many more. Some years, it was one or two letters. Sometimes three or more letters.

This year, I will send a letter to the Director of a Faith Based Rehab. He is doing an amazing job and it is hard work! His son is an addict, which lead him to give up a very, very good professional career and start this rehab.

The letters are personal – from me to the person receiving it. I GIVE it to them personally, but do not keep a copy. They are a gift. They detail the reason I am thanking them and why I admire them. 

One letter I wrote was to a young man starting a business.  I knew him when he married his best friend and when they had their first son. The business and his marriage were great…then came the challenge.  They had a severely autistic son. It has been a real job, and in my letter, I told him how well he was doing. He called me when he got it and just cried on the phone. It meant so much to him that he has it in his office. My purpose in writing the letter was fulfilled, and it set a series of acts of kindness into motion.

After receiving his letter, this young businessman started a Christmas party for his business. Each holiday, he has a Saturday morning open house. Everyone who comes brings a ham, anything else they want to share, and it is all donated to a church to give Christmas dinners to those in need.  All the cookies etc. that are at the party are made by his small staff and the good will is contagious.

Last year, due to Covid, they set up tables outside his office building and greeted friends as they drove past delivering their ham and other gifts. Each car was given a goody bag of cookies as a thanks for their participation.

As the event unfolded, another business owner in the complex came over to inquire about what was going on. This year, that business is also going to host a giveaway office party. The impact of gratitude is spreading.

Know you are a blessing to someone today.

Do you have experiences or comments you would like to share? If so, please send them to Hope Through Healing at hopethroughhealing@gmail.com.

Thank you.

Written By Adrienne Attaberry

June 2020

Recently, it seems that I’ve been hearing the terms “mindful” and “mindfulness” a great deal.  I’ve noticed book titles and articles on a variety of topics ranging from “mindful eating” to claims that “mindfulness is the key to success in business.”  There are websites on the subject which include detailed instructions on how one can harness mindfulness.  And just the other day, I received an e-mail invitation to sign up for a lifetime membership to mindfulness.com at the discounted price of $249.  I’m not sure exactly what that includes but the tag line certainly sounds promising: “Pay once, enjoy forever.”  

Mindfulness certainly isn’t a new term; in fact, it is one of the core principles of Buddhism.  However, these days, the idea of mindfulness is enjoying a new-found popularity, a resurrection of sorts. According to an online definition I found, mindfulness means “…maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment, through a gentle, nurturing lens.” Another online definition said, “When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future.”

In my work as a Hospice Bereavement Coordinator, I can certainly appreciate the value in tuning into things in the present moment.  So, when I found an article about using mindfulness as a tool for dealing with grief, I was intrigued.  Having as many tools as possible in our grief-support shed is always a good thing.  Heaven knows bereavement work is not based on a one size fits all premise! 

One of my first thoughts as I started to explore the concept of using mindfulness during grief, was questioning how much of grief actually exists in the present moment.  Isn’t grief primarily based on memories from the past and on projections into the future?  We know that when one is grieving their sadness is in thoughts and feelings of no longer having what they have just lost.  That’s true whether dealing with the death of a loved one or other losses such as the loss of a job or the loss of material things. 

When using mindfulness for grief, perhaps the check-in process could begin with the questions: “How am I feeling in this moment?” and “Where are my thoughts?” With practice and patience, mindfulness could also have enormous benefits in helping those grieving to gain a new appreciation for living in the present . . . really being in the here and now.

Could mindfulness allow one to witness grief more as it naturally unfolds in the moment rather than getting lost in the extremes of avoidance or overwhelm?  With its focus on the now, could mindfulness offer a safeguard to protect those grieving from getting swallowed up by the unpredictable waves of grief? Preparation and having the right tools are everything.

Do you have experiences or comments you would like to share? If so, please send them to Hope Through Healing at hopethroughhealing@gmail.com.

Thank you.